I'm convinced that many would stay put in their marriage if they just had the ability to see their new life and it's degenerative effects 10 years out. That lovely cliche' about the grass on the other side being greener is so apt. That grass you see over there is indeed attractive, but what if you knew it would be grass with infestation? Infested with guilt, lies told and received, abandonment of another and forsaking of children. Several years out you discover that the new play thing is treacherous enough to steal a spouse, play provocateur to other men, and harm people's children. While considering the affair, nobody seems to ask them self what kind of female would lure a man away from his vows, his wife, his kids, and his peace. A mean woman is the kind that would do that. "The woman approached him, seductively dressed and sly of heart." -- Proverbs 7:10. Once the ensnared man receives the poisonous woman into his heart the damage is already done. The warning bell that God blessed us with is called your conscience or "Jiminy Cricket." Listen to the cricket!
Some other issues that wait to ensnare:
- drugs and alcohol
- fault finding